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I believe that it is especially important to randomly evaluate your relationships. The relationships that we have with others can have an affect on the flow of our daily lives, sometimes good and sometimes bad. If you know there is someone who is contributing or involved in unnecessary drama, then after a clear evaluation of your relationship you may come to realize that it may not be in your best interest to associate yourself with that person. There is absolutely nothing wrong with discontinuing unhealthy relationships because at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you. I believe that we hang on to people for several reasons; giving people the benefit of the doubt, the level of comfort that we have with them, because we are creatures of habit, and sometimes it's due to motive.
On a personal level, I have learned that when someone is beneficial for you there won't be any reasons why you have a relationship with them except "they're good for me" or "we're good for each other". There aren't normally many benefits to doubts because a doubt is something that you know 95% of the time is true but that other 5% gives you something to look forward to. Well if 95% of the time you have received a 5% benefit then it's time to give it up. Where there is one person who is causing issues, there are 50 other people who won't. I have had relationships where I was comfortable being around them but not comfortable with the flow of the relationship which constantly gave me a feeling of doubt and caused me to try and figure out what the potential motive was. Have you ever heard the term "quality over quantity"? Well that is how I operate and it works out perfectly for me. I would prefer to have one friend who provides a sense of fulfillment in a relationship, than to have 10 questionable people that appear to be friends who add small pieces to make up the puzzle of a relationship. However, upon clear reflection and evaluation those 10 questionable people do have the ability to be associates; which means you have the choice to associate with those people for whatever pieces they add to your standards of a relationship.
You see it's all very simple, you befriend those who complete you and assist you in leading a peaceful existence and you associate with those who add partial standardized value.
Quote of the Day: "Perfection in your relationships should not be the ultimate goal. You should primarily strive for happiness and peace!" ~ Candice Loper
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