Hey Blogfam!!
There will be times when things are revealed to you for a specific purpose. Maybe things were being said that shouldn't have, maybe someone is doing something that they shouldn't be doing, or maybe you met someone's "representative" and now the real them is coming out. Now don't get me wrong; i'm not saying that revelations have to be all bad. In contrast, it's quite possible that the person you think you are isn't who you're supposed to be and someone comes in your life to show you a different way.
It's important to recognize those little blessings (as I like to call them) because they have the ability to clarify things for us that may not have been so clear otherwise. Being stubborn can prevent people from seeing certain things for what they are which is why I try to keep an open mind. I am sure we all have our stubborn moments from time to time but if you get to a point where you feel like it's your way or no way than you won't have the ability to see things for what they are, even if it is right in front of your face. I've been there and done that! There have been times when I felt like the way I was doing things was the right way and there wasn't any other way and then something always happened to show me a different way. I'm not saying that different way was always the right way but my stubbornness had a tendency to prevent me from being open to the possibility of seeing the potential in the situation.
I am so thankful that I have grown and realized that everything won't always be clear so it's possible that some good information or revelations could be delivered through indirect methods. This is why I try not to discount any experiences because everything we go through helps us increase our level of strength and wisdom.
CandyNote: Many people see the signs but only wise know which pieces of those signs they could benefit from.
Candy Girl
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Initial Evaluation Limits Compromise
Good Morning Blogfam!
When entering into a relationship with someone it is important to evaluate their current position and overall goals in life to ensure that they align with yours. The future outcome of the relationship is not normally the initial thought when meeting someone, however if things work out for the best several key items will have to be taken into consideration. When meeting someone it is very likely that you would initially be drawn to their physical and character traits. However, there are many people who ignore the drive, stability, and past behavior of a person until its too late. I say too late because many flaws are not recognized until a person is already "head over heels", which then it makes it more difficult to just walk away from the relationship.
It is extremely important to embrace someone with their flaws and all, however it is also important to be sure that the flaws can be reformed or that you have the ability to accept them, whether it be temporarily or permanently. It's possible that what may be considered a flaw to you is a way of life for the next person. If this is the case, that means unless a person is willing to compromise parts of their being to make you happy then the relationship has the potential to fail. If you find that you can't be happy with the person you met then maybe they just aren't the one for you. If you know what you want and you know a person doesn't meet those requirements then don't waste their time or yours because eventually it will present a problem. Some things are more serious than others but for the most part people know what they truly desire.
Personally, I believe that when you're younger it's acceptable behavior to be attracted to someone for whatever reason you see fit. As it's likely that you aren't necessarily looking to spend the rest of your life with this person so it's okay to have a good time. However, when you reach a certain age you have to pay especially close attention to a persons ability to provide on various levels. On a personal level, I know that I want a man who can stimulate my mental, be successful in whatever he does, be an amazing father figure, have the ability to communicate with all type of people, and support me in all that I do! I will not compromise those things. So I suggest that you evaluate your standards and have a clear idea of what you are or aren't willing to compromise, it will prevent the headache later on.
CandyNote: "When you compromise your standards you are potentially jeopardizing your level of happiness. Be fair and wise when making decisions that will affect your livelihood."
When entering into a relationship with someone it is important to evaluate their current position and overall goals in life to ensure that they align with yours. The future outcome of the relationship is not normally the initial thought when meeting someone, however if things work out for the best several key items will have to be taken into consideration. When meeting someone it is very likely that you would initially be drawn to their physical and character traits. However, there are many people who ignore the drive, stability, and past behavior of a person until its too late. I say too late because many flaws are not recognized until a person is already "head over heels", which then it makes it more difficult to just walk away from the relationship.
It is extremely important to embrace someone with their flaws and all, however it is also important to be sure that the flaws can be reformed or that you have the ability to accept them, whether it be temporarily or permanently. It's possible that what may be considered a flaw to you is a way of life for the next person. If this is the case, that means unless a person is willing to compromise parts of their being to make you happy then the relationship has the potential to fail. If you find that you can't be happy with the person you met then maybe they just aren't the one for you. If you know what you want and you know a person doesn't meet those requirements then don't waste their time or yours because eventually it will present a problem. Some things are more serious than others but for the most part people know what they truly desire.
Personally, I believe that when you're younger it's acceptable behavior to be attracted to someone for whatever reason you see fit. As it's likely that you aren't necessarily looking to spend the rest of your life with this person so it's okay to have a good time. However, when you reach a certain age you have to pay especially close attention to a persons ability to provide on various levels. On a personal level, I know that I want a man who can stimulate my mental, be successful in whatever he does, be an amazing father figure, have the ability to communicate with all type of people, and support me in all that I do! I will not compromise those things. So I suggest that you evaluate your standards and have a clear idea of what you are or aren't willing to compromise, it will prevent the headache later on.
CandyNote: "When you compromise your standards you are potentially jeopardizing your level of happiness. Be fair and wise when making decisions that will affect your livelihood."
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
Right in Front of Your Face
Hey Hey Blogfam!!!
I want to stress how extremely important is is to be fully aware of the personality, maturity and sincerity of people that you choose to involve yourself with. If you notice early on in a relationship that someone has a tendency to be dishonest, immature, or secretive, then you can rest assure that it will get worse later on and they have things to hide for a very good reason. So many people choose to ignore the important signs and then they wait until its too late to get out without their feelings being hurt. However, you can't really blame the other person for your pain when they showed you, whether it be directly or discreetly, that they were capable of whatever they may have done to cause you to reach your breaking point.
Everything won't always be plain and simple so some things you have to figure out by analyzing the situation and behavior of the parties involved. If you meet someone and certain things don't add up it's probably because some of what they are telling you isn't true. That's when you have to decide if you want to wait for the lies to become truths, or do you want to just get out now and move on to someone who isn't going to present those same doubts. We all know that relationships aren't perfect but they also don't have to be stressful or questionable. One thing I have realized is when someone respects you and the relationship they have with you, they won't do anything to intentionally deceive you. Normally, when there is a motive involved and the relationship isn't just based on a genuine liking for one another, that's when you will be more prone to dishonesty and drama. Therefore, if someone has specific motive in mind for why they want to have a relationship with you, they will have no interest in showing you the utmost respect because their main concern is themselves and what their trying to gain.
Quote for the Day: "Don't ignore what you know is real for what you want to feel."
I want to stress how extremely important is is to be fully aware of the personality, maturity and sincerity of people that you choose to involve yourself with. If you notice early on in a relationship that someone has a tendency to be dishonest, immature, or secretive, then you can rest assure that it will get worse later on and they have things to hide for a very good reason. So many people choose to ignore the important signs and then they wait until its too late to get out without their feelings being hurt. However, you can't really blame the other person for your pain when they showed you, whether it be directly or discreetly, that they were capable of whatever they may have done to cause you to reach your breaking point.
Everything won't always be plain and simple so some things you have to figure out by analyzing the situation and behavior of the parties involved. If you meet someone and certain things don't add up it's probably because some of what they are telling you isn't true. That's when you have to decide if you want to wait for the lies to become truths, or do you want to just get out now and move on to someone who isn't going to present those same doubts. We all know that relationships aren't perfect but they also don't have to be stressful or questionable. One thing I have realized is when someone respects you and the relationship they have with you, they won't do anything to intentionally deceive you. Normally, when there is a motive involved and the relationship isn't just based on a genuine liking for one another, that's when you will be more prone to dishonesty and drama. Therefore, if someone has specific motive in mind for why they want to have a relationship with you, they will have no interest in showing you the utmost respect because their main concern is themselves and what their trying to gain.
Quote for the Day: "Don't ignore what you know is real for what you want to feel."
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Mental Strength is Essential
Good Morning Blogfam!
Strength is an important part of a healthy existence. I am not referring to physical strength, I am speaking more so about mental and emotional strength. When you possess a strong mentality it enables you to deal with certain situations with an open mind and clear view. You won't be easily persuaded into forcing yourself to believe in false realities. However, on the flip side you also have to be strong enough to know when you realities are true. It's natural to endure mental struggles from time to time but the strength comes in when you overcome them and accept situations for what they are.
I've had my share of mental and emotional battles and I won't even try to pretend that I handled them all with strength and poise. However, one day I had an awakening and that is when I realized that everything I was going through was self-inflicted because I didn't have the mental capacity to accept things for what they were instead of what I wanted them to be. When you already have an idea of how you want things to go and you aren't willing to compromise, when the time comes you won't have the ability to accept reality. It took me a while to realize that what I want won't always be what I will get but as long as I have the ability to see the good in what I do get, I will be a much stronger person.
CandyNote: You can have all the muscles in the world and be extremely weak.
Strength is an important part of a healthy existence. I am not referring to physical strength, I am speaking more so about mental and emotional strength. When you possess a strong mentality it enables you to deal with certain situations with an open mind and clear view. You won't be easily persuaded into forcing yourself to believe in false realities. However, on the flip side you also have to be strong enough to know when you realities are true. It's natural to endure mental struggles from time to time but the strength comes in when you overcome them and accept situations for what they are.
I've had my share of mental and emotional battles and I won't even try to pretend that I handled them all with strength and poise. However, one day I had an awakening and that is when I realized that everything I was going through was self-inflicted because I didn't have the mental capacity to accept things for what they were instead of what I wanted them to be. When you already have an idea of how you want things to go and you aren't willing to compromise, when the time comes you won't have the ability to accept reality. It took me a while to realize that what I want won't always be what I will get but as long as I have the ability to see the good in what I do get, I will be a much stronger person.
CandyNote: You can have all the muscles in the world and be extremely weak.
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