Good Morning Blogfam!
I was having a conversation with a good friend yesterday and they were able to give me a different perspective on having expectations of the future. I tend to be one who constantly tries to pull out my crystal ball and see ahead of time what the future has in store or how I foresee it turning out. It seems as if I like to prepare myself for what may possibly happen so I can already have a head start on controlling my emotions. However, looking at things in hindsight just made me realize that when it's all said and done the pain doesn't hurt any less and the joy doesn't excite me anymore. So I was brought to realize that I could be so focused on what's to come in the future that I can't allow myself to fully embrace and appreciate the present.
A very important thing to realize is that things won't always turn out the way you want them to and that's okay. When you constantly try to shape life the way you think it should be you might be interrupting what is supposed to happen and your feelings toward it. I rarely ever had the ability to go with the flow and let things happen naturally because I was so focused on having control of something that I had no control over. Life is given to us minute by minute and day by day so it's wise to appreciate the right now because later is not guaranteed. I appreciate the conversations I have that allow me to see things differently because I believe that one way of thinking shuts you out from the other endless points, possibilities, and perspectives that exist.
CandyNote: Don't miss the magic of the moment by focusing on what's to come.
Candy Girl
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Respect Your Place!
Good Morning Blogfam!
I haven't always had the ability to recognize my place in someones life but the more I grow, the more I learn. The time period in which you enter into a persons life or they enter into yours can make all of the difference in whether or not your relationship will be successful. Sometimes circumstances have the ability to supersede a persons intentions. Each and every one of our lives takes its own path and on that journey there isn't someone or something there saying don't do that yet you're going to meet so and so. You just have to go with the flow and realize that a time may come when you have to RESPECT your place in someones life. If someone that you know or are interested in is experiencing personal issues or has a lot going on then its best to just give them space to get things in order and not feel like it's an insult to get in where you fit in. It wouldn't be beneficial to try and stake your claim to what you think your prioritization should be in their life, because it's unlikely that you will have the ability to determine the weight of the priorities that existed before you.
To elaborate a bit on the concept of recognizing your place. You could be at a point in your life where you feel that you are ready to settle down and work towards getting to the next level with someone. Well circumstances aren't always perfect and its not guaranteed that you will meet someone that is on the same page with you at the same time. However, there is always the chance that you will meet someone who you may care deeply for and could see yourself on the same page with, but they're just not there yet. So this is where the gifts of patience, understanding, and maturity come into play. You have to be patient enough to wait for the right time to present itself, you have to be understanding enough to allow the time and space that is necessary to rectify existing issues, and you have to be mature enough to determine who is worth receiving your gifts of patience and understanding. You may not be a priority right now but it doesn't mean you're just an option either. Therefore, I encourage anyone who may be experiencing feelings of uncertainty not to get discouraged because it probably has nothing to do with you, it's possibly just bad timing.
Quote of the Day: "You won't always get what you want when you want it, but you will get it eventually if it's meant for you to have it."
I haven't always had the ability to recognize my place in someones life but the more I grow, the more I learn. The time period in which you enter into a persons life or they enter into yours can make all of the difference in whether or not your relationship will be successful. Sometimes circumstances have the ability to supersede a persons intentions. Each and every one of our lives takes its own path and on that journey there isn't someone or something there saying don't do that yet you're going to meet so and so. You just have to go with the flow and realize that a time may come when you have to RESPECT your place in someones life. If someone that you know or are interested in is experiencing personal issues or has a lot going on then its best to just give them space to get things in order and not feel like it's an insult to get in where you fit in. It wouldn't be beneficial to try and stake your claim to what you think your prioritization should be in their life, because it's unlikely that you will have the ability to determine the weight of the priorities that existed before you.
To elaborate a bit on the concept of recognizing your place. You could be at a point in your life where you feel that you are ready to settle down and work towards getting to the next level with someone. Well circumstances aren't always perfect and its not guaranteed that you will meet someone that is on the same page with you at the same time. However, there is always the chance that you will meet someone who you may care deeply for and could see yourself on the same page with, but they're just not there yet. So this is where the gifts of patience, understanding, and maturity come into play. You have to be patient enough to wait for the right time to present itself, you have to be understanding enough to allow the time and space that is necessary to rectify existing issues, and you have to be mature enough to determine who is worth receiving your gifts of patience and understanding. You may not be a priority right now but it doesn't mean you're just an option either. Therefore, I encourage anyone who may be experiencing feelings of uncertainty not to get discouraged because it probably has nothing to do with you, it's possibly just bad timing.
Quote of the Day: "You won't always get what you want when you want it, but you will get it eventually if it's meant for you to have it."
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
Life Can Be What You Want
Good Morning Blogfam!
Whether you be young or old, I think you will have those moments in life when you realize that the life you have been living is not the life you should continue living. This isn't necessarily a bad thing because our lives our supposed to take certain paths at certain times for certain reasons but it doesn't mean it has to be indefinite. However, change is inevitable for people who desire it and have the ability to accept it. It's very easy to become accustomed to a particular type of lifestyle and stick with it but it's a hard task to take that lifestyle and find areas that need to be improved and actually take the steps to change it.
Being happy is a wonderful feeling and sometimes you have to create your own sense of happiness based on how you perceive your life to be. I mean if you can't be happy with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be happy with or around you? Sometimes we get stuck into these little boxes where we feel like the happiness we are experiencing is at its highest point. That is until you experience something that helps you realize that there is so much more out there. When you have a lot going on in life, a lot of responsibility, and a lot of commitments it becomes very difficult to create the time necessary to enforce change. However, that's when you have the opportunity to figure out where you can shift your focus to make it possible for other things happen.
CandyNote: Don't feel it necessary to live the life you've been living, feel free to live the life you imagined!
Whether you be young or old, I think you will have those moments in life when you realize that the life you have been living is not the life you should continue living. This isn't necessarily a bad thing because our lives our supposed to take certain paths at certain times for certain reasons but it doesn't mean it has to be indefinite. However, change is inevitable for people who desire it and have the ability to accept it. It's very easy to become accustomed to a particular type of lifestyle and stick with it but it's a hard task to take that lifestyle and find areas that need to be improved and actually take the steps to change it.
Being happy is a wonderful feeling and sometimes you have to create your own sense of happiness based on how you perceive your life to be. I mean if you can't be happy with yourself, how can you expect someone else to be happy with or around you? Sometimes we get stuck into these little boxes where we feel like the happiness we are experiencing is at its highest point. That is until you experience something that helps you realize that there is so much more out there. When you have a lot going on in life, a lot of responsibility, and a lot of commitments it becomes very difficult to create the time necessary to enforce change. However, that's when you have the opportunity to figure out where you can shift your focus to make it possible for other things happen.
CandyNote: Don't feel it necessary to live the life you've been living, feel free to live the life you imagined!
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