Good Morning Blogfam!
In order for relationships to be successful it's important to start out by laying a strong foundation. It seems that a lot of people enter into relationships and their goal straight out the gate is getting to the finish line. However, in order to get to the finish line you have to put the work in and have something about you that sets you apart from the rest. It's especially important to make sure you condition yourself beforehand because if you're not strong then you'll find yourself depending on someone else for your strength.
One of the keys to a strong foundation starts with getting to know more about your mate than what's on the surface. You have to desire to know more about them, their life, their character, their goals, and even their intentions. Moreover they have to be willing to share those things; if they're not then it means they don't desire to get to know you or let you in to their world. Communication is extremely important as well because you have to be open to talking about anything and everything, no matter how sensitive the topic. Things won't always be great because that's unrealistic but if you can talk it out and come to a resolution that works best for both of you then that will keep your foundation strong.
Now I understand why the reference to a relationship is the same as a home. Your home must have a strong foundation to endure any kind of weather, protect your from outsiders who try to ruin you, provide a sense of comfort, and be a place that you enjoy spending time. That's how you want your relationship to be as well.
CandyNote: Your relationship is an investment so don't be afraid to put a lot into it because ultimately that will determine your return in the future.
Candy Girl
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Monday, December 12, 2011
You'll Know
Good Morning Blogfam!
There are many times that we find ourselves in situations that we don't want to be in. In contrast, there are also situations that we really want to be in but it may not be acceptable by others or society so it prevents us from doing what's truly pleasing to us. Majority of people live their life based on what's acceptable according to society's standard. The thing about society is it's so diverse so there will always be someone somewhere who is walking down the same path you want to walk down or are walking down.
I am the type of person who loves to talk things out with those that I am close to. Not necessarily for approval, but in situations where i'm not sure if my decision will be accepted I will seek confirmation. However, what I realized a long time ago is that when you do something that you know will ultimately make you the happiest, you won't need confirmation, advice, or feedback from anyone else. The most serious, defining, life-changing decisions that i've ever had to make were made without any prior discussion with anyone else. It's almost as though I had an epiphany that was so clear that my thoughts, vision, and feelings towards it were all the confirmation I needed. When I reflect on the past and think back to some of the decisions i've made, I realize that those type of decisions brought about the best results.
I believe that a major part of the reason why people are so confused in life and lack efficient decision-making skills is due to a constant need of confirmation from others. What they fail to realize is you are the one who will be most affected by your decisions so why ask someone who has nothing invested in YOUR life. Please don't get what I am saying confused; i'm not saying that no one has any valuable advice or haven't endured any personal experiences that could help you with a tough decision you are trying to make. In a nutshell, i'm saying that typically in the case of making serious decisions, you won't need their advice because you'll feel so strongly about your feelings towards the situation.
CandyNote: If you're still confused then now is not the time to make that decision because when you are confident there no questions...only answers, actions, and results.
There are many times that we find ourselves in situations that we don't want to be in. In contrast, there are also situations that we really want to be in but it may not be acceptable by others or society so it prevents us from doing what's truly pleasing to us. Majority of people live their life based on what's acceptable according to society's standard. The thing about society is it's so diverse so there will always be someone somewhere who is walking down the same path you want to walk down or are walking down.
I am the type of person who loves to talk things out with those that I am close to. Not necessarily for approval, but in situations where i'm not sure if my decision will be accepted I will seek confirmation. However, what I realized a long time ago is that when you do something that you know will ultimately make you the happiest, you won't need confirmation, advice, or feedback from anyone else. The most serious, defining, life-changing decisions that i've ever had to make were made without any prior discussion with anyone else. It's almost as though I had an epiphany that was so clear that my thoughts, vision, and feelings towards it were all the confirmation I needed. When I reflect on the past and think back to some of the decisions i've made, I realize that those type of decisions brought about the best results.
I believe that a major part of the reason why people are so confused in life and lack efficient decision-making skills is due to a constant need of confirmation from others. What they fail to realize is you are the one who will be most affected by your decisions so why ask someone who has nothing invested in YOUR life. Please don't get what I am saying confused; i'm not saying that no one has any valuable advice or haven't endured any personal experiences that could help you with a tough decision you are trying to make. In a nutshell, i'm saying that typically in the case of making serious decisions, you won't need their advice because you'll feel so strongly about your feelings towards the situation.
CandyNote: If you're still confused then now is not the time to make that decision because when you are confident there no questions...only answers, actions, and results.
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