Good Morning Blogfam!
Giving up something or someone that you've been accustomed to for a long time can be very difficult. No matter how good or bad for you it may be, the hardest thing to get used to is not having it as a part of your life anymore. It is human nature to become comfortable in situations no matter what the circumstances are. You may know someone who is being abused and might not be able to understand why they can't just leave the situation. Although they are in a horrible situation they have become accustomed to the behavior which has taken a mental toll on them, so it's not easy to just walk away from it.
I told a friend recently that when we give up habits, it's natural to try and replace or substitute the emotions and/or physical comfort with something else. One thing that I have found to be severely pertinent is NOT to use something temporary as a permanent replacement. What i'm trying to say is, say for instance your relationship ends and you are having a hard time getting over it. As unrealistic as it sounds, the best thing you can do for yourself is to find peace and resolution within and reflect on the situation. When one of my previous relationships ended, I was forced to be by myself so I found healing in partying. Well here is the problem; once I got tired of partying, although it was several months after the breakup, I was now forced to deal with it. So initially I used a temporary solution of partying as a permanent resolution to my pain.
Along this journey of life it is not going to be easy but many of the experiences, whether they be good or bad will certainly be worth it. There have been many situations that I have been faced with when happening in real time was looked upon as such a major roadblock. However, once I waited for the smoke to clear, got past it, and was able to see difference it made in my life; it motivated me to refrain from trying to substitute pain and deal with it so I could remove it completely.
Quote of the Day: "Pain is temporary but being afraid to deal with it has the potential to cause it to be permanent." ~ Candice Loper
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Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Perspective Determines Your Perception of Pride
Good Morning Blogfam!
Myself and a friend were having a very deep conversation and came across a topic that we shared different views on. We began talking about PRIDE! What exactly is pride and can being too sensitive towards it hinder your opportunities, stability, or peace of mind? Pride is defined as "a sense of one's own proper dignity or value; self-respect". The thing about pride is we all have it but how we feel towards it can vary from person to person. Even the most confident of people have moments where they question parts of their being so it's not a matter of strength or weakness; it's a matter of comfort in oneself.
The typical situation where people feel like their pride is in jeopardy is when they have to ask someone for something. This is where it becomes situational and sensitive depending on the individual involved. Typically, the person who has issues regarding their pride is the person who feels like they can do everything on their own and they don't need anyone for anything. So when a situation presents itself where support or assistance is required, they let their pride keep them from asking for help. Personally, it takes a lot for me to feel as if my pride is threatened because I am very comfortable with myself and my independence. So when I have to ask for help, I know it's because I need it and that doesn't affect my pride whatsoever. I'll tell you what it does; it makes me feel proud that I have the courage to ask. This is why I believe that your perspective determines your perception regarding pride.
Quote of the Day: "When others recognize your efforts, your pride should never be tested because if they help you out it's because they have respect for YOU." ~ Candice Loper
Myself and a friend were having a very deep conversation and came across a topic that we shared different views on. We began talking about PRIDE! What exactly is pride and can being too sensitive towards it hinder your opportunities, stability, or peace of mind? Pride is defined as "a sense of one's own proper dignity or value; self-respect". The thing about pride is we all have it but how we feel towards it can vary from person to person. Even the most confident of people have moments where they question parts of their being so it's not a matter of strength or weakness; it's a matter of comfort in oneself.
The typical situation where people feel like their pride is in jeopardy is when they have to ask someone for something. This is where it becomes situational and sensitive depending on the individual involved. Typically, the person who has issues regarding their pride is the person who feels like they can do everything on their own and they don't need anyone for anything. So when a situation presents itself where support or assistance is required, they let their pride keep them from asking for help. Personally, it takes a lot for me to feel as if my pride is threatened because I am very comfortable with myself and my independence. So when I have to ask for help, I know it's because I need it and that doesn't affect my pride whatsoever. I'll tell you what it does; it makes me feel proud that I have the courage to ask. This is why I believe that your perspective determines your perception regarding pride.
Quote of the Day: "When others recognize your efforts, your pride should never be tested because if they help you out it's because they have respect for YOU." ~ Candice Loper
Monday, April 11, 2011
Realize Your Impact
Good Morning Blogfam!
Speaking, talking, informing, advising, suggesting, and numerous other words describe the many types of conversations that we have. What I have come to realize is that some people don't realize the effects of their words and how they are perceived by others. There are some people who will hear everything you say and they will take it with them wherever they go, than you have others who hear nothing at all. It's important to understand your audience and how they perceive information as an individual.
I used to be that type of person that would always respond affirmatively mainly because I didn't have the courage to say what was really on my mind. However, I realized that telling someone what they want to hear is an indirect form of misleading them. Because ultimately they would actually look forward to everything I was telling them, although I knew the whole time that it wouldn't happen. It's just easier to say what you mean and mean what you say up front, regardless of what a person wants to hear. Clearly, it would be best to be tactful in your response as i'm sure no one wants to hurt someone's feelings intentionally. This is important when trying to maintain fruitful relationships.
Words can help just as words can hurt, which is why it's important to utilize them properly. I have had relationships with people who enjoyed saying hurtful things, but when I looked at the situation in hindsight and was able to evaluate and analyze their life path, I realized their infliction of pain unto others was because that was an outlet due to their own personal pain. If you know someone like this, the best bit of advice I could give is don't give them satisfaction of seeing you hurt. If you can't get through to them, don't be afraid to let them go because at least you get to hold on to your dignity and self-respect while they're busy harassing the next person.
Quote of the Day: "Everything you say has the possibility of remembrance." ~ Candice Loper
Speaking, talking, informing, advising, suggesting, and numerous other words describe the many types of conversations that we have. What I have come to realize is that some people don't realize the effects of their words and how they are perceived by others. There are some people who will hear everything you say and they will take it with them wherever they go, than you have others who hear nothing at all. It's important to understand your audience and how they perceive information as an individual.
I used to be that type of person that would always respond affirmatively mainly because I didn't have the courage to say what was really on my mind. However, I realized that telling someone what they want to hear is an indirect form of misleading them. Because ultimately they would actually look forward to everything I was telling them, although I knew the whole time that it wouldn't happen. It's just easier to say what you mean and mean what you say up front, regardless of what a person wants to hear. Clearly, it would be best to be tactful in your response as i'm sure no one wants to hurt someone's feelings intentionally. This is important when trying to maintain fruitful relationships.
Words can help just as words can hurt, which is why it's important to utilize them properly. I have had relationships with people who enjoyed saying hurtful things, but when I looked at the situation in hindsight and was able to evaluate and analyze their life path, I realized their infliction of pain unto others was because that was an outlet due to their own personal pain. If you know someone like this, the best bit of advice I could give is don't give them satisfaction of seeing you hurt. If you can't get through to them, don't be afraid to let them go because at least you get to hold on to your dignity and self-respect while they're busy harassing the next person.
Quote of the Day: "Everything you say has the possibility of remembrance." ~ Candice Loper
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
True Passion Provides Eventually
Good Afternoon Blogfam,
I find it extremely important to recognize that it takes patience, determination, and sheer passion to perfect a craft. Even if it is something that you are interested in, it doesn't mean that you will be great at it or know how to make it work for you. I just heard today that it takes 10,000 hours to become good at something, which is a little more than a year. However, who really has a year straight to work on something when you're trying to live life simultaneously. So I pondered on that for a second and it made perfect sense. I know many people who began working on their craft at an early age and it took majority of their lives to finally see the fruits of their labor. Why? Because they never gave up and always made time for it!
For example, I have a cousin who has always been talented in many forms of Art; from writing and speaking poetry, rapping, singing, to dancing. She always had the determination and sheer passion, but not always the patience to develop a plan to make it work for her. So now after a lifetime of having the passion she has finally realized how to perfect her craft and make it work for her. Of course most people in the entertainment industry want to get major paid and be a world renowned figure but sometimes you have to find solace in something on a smaller scale and be confident that it will grow into something large. That's what she's done and now her name rings bells which means she's well on her way.
I used to be that person that wanted instant gratification from anything that I "thought" I was interested in. Before actually thinking about the craft or skill, I would think about the financial aspect of it like "What can I do that will make me a whole lot of money?" However, eventually I came to realize that I was horrible at everything I thought of and had no genuine interest in it whatsoever. Now I find peace and solace in writing on my blog and motivating others; it doesn't provide a financial benefit YET but at least i'm doing something I love and it does have the potential to satisfy me financially.
Quote of the Day: "When your passion is your primary focus, all the superficial desires become secondary." ~ Candice Loper
I find it extremely important to recognize that it takes patience, determination, and sheer passion to perfect a craft. Even if it is something that you are interested in, it doesn't mean that you will be great at it or know how to make it work for you. I just heard today that it takes 10,000 hours to become good at something, which is a little more than a year. However, who really has a year straight to work on something when you're trying to live life simultaneously. So I pondered on that for a second and it made perfect sense. I know many people who began working on their craft at an early age and it took majority of their lives to finally see the fruits of their labor. Why? Because they never gave up and always made time for it!
For example, I have a cousin who has always been talented in many forms of Art; from writing and speaking poetry, rapping, singing, to dancing. She always had the determination and sheer passion, but not always the patience to develop a plan to make it work for her. So now after a lifetime of having the passion she has finally realized how to perfect her craft and make it work for her. Of course most people in the entertainment industry want to get major paid and be a world renowned figure but sometimes you have to find solace in something on a smaller scale and be confident that it will grow into something large. That's what she's done and now her name rings bells which means she's well on her way.
I used to be that person that wanted instant gratification from anything that I "thought" I was interested in. Before actually thinking about the craft or skill, I would think about the financial aspect of it like "What can I do that will make me a whole lot of money?" However, eventually I came to realize that I was horrible at everything I thought of and had no genuine interest in it whatsoever. Now I find peace and solace in writing on my blog and motivating others; it doesn't provide a financial benefit YET but at least i'm doing something I love and it does have the potential to satisfy me financially.
Quote of the Day: "When your passion is your primary focus, all the superficial desires become secondary." ~ Candice Loper
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