Good Afternoon Blogfam!
For most of us there has been a time or two in life that a relationship ended and it felt like the end of the world. I have realized that there are ways to prevent that from happening. To protect yourself from being devastated over the end of a relationship STOP giving one person your ALL! You have to retain some for yourself because you will need it to get through later. In a good situation you won't have to GIVE your all because will be FELT and RECEIVED. If you find yourself trying to hard to prove your love and affection than that could mean that the person you're with doesn't have the ability to recognize what you have to offer.
You know...I believe that people make relationships harder than they have to be. While I realize that relationships are extremely hard work, especially if you are genuinely committed, you also shouldn't find yourself working extremely hard to PROVE your love to someone. Love normally comes pretty easy when it's real. I have been on both sides of that fence which is why I can speak on this. I've had a relationship where love, affection, and understanding was effortless and at the end of the day none of those were the reasons why it came to an end. Moreover, when it did come to an end it didn't really hurt, it was just something that needed to happen. In contrast, my other relationship where I found myself constantly being put in a position to PROVE to him that I loved him and how much, it was draining. I said to myself many times: What more could I possibly do to make him understand that the way I feel is real? Going through all of that eventually made me question myself on whether or not I really did love this person. I started feeling like if he doesn't feel it than either he doesn't have the ability to accept it or maybe I just really don't love him and that's why he doesn't feel anything. Regardless of whether I loved him or not, I put my ALL into proving to him that I did and when it came to an end it was really hard on me because I didn't have anything left inside to get through it.
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Monday, October 17, 2011
Choices..It's Up to You!
Good Morning Blogfam!
There are many factors to take into consideration when determining where you might end up in life. To name a few: childhood, education, dreams, etc. However, what I have discovered is where you will end up with rests solely on your choices. We are all given the power of choice at a very young age. I've witnessed people who grew up in less fortunate households become great people with great things going for them. Just as I have seen the flip side of that with people who grew up in well-to-do households and turned out to be losers. When you're young you can dream as much as you want and picture the future that you wish to have. Eventually you will get to an age where you will realize that in order for those dreams to become a reality, you have to start working towards it and trust me...it's hard work!
I made choices at a young age to stop dreaming so my reality became the total opposite of what my dreams used to be. I made a choice to become an adult when I should have been a child and I made a choice to have a child when I was still a child. Although I made those choices, it didn't stop me from choosing not to be a non-contributing person in this tough world. Some of my not-so-great choices produced phenomenal results so nothing has to be completely bad forever.
I'm sure we have all gotten a bit frustrated with with people who continuously make bad decisions. However, you just have to realize that you don't have to live their life and it's quite possible that some people don't have dreams and aspirations for the future. Seems like the ones who make an excessive amount of bad decisions are the ones who live life on a day to day basis vs living today for what's to come tomorrow.
CandyNote: Life will provide you with what you need but to get what you want you have to work hard for it!
There are many factors to take into consideration when determining where you might end up in life. To name a few: childhood, education, dreams, etc. However, what I have discovered is where you will end up with rests solely on your choices. We are all given the power of choice at a very young age. I've witnessed people who grew up in less fortunate households become great people with great things going for them. Just as I have seen the flip side of that with people who grew up in well-to-do households and turned out to be losers. When you're young you can dream as much as you want and picture the future that you wish to have. Eventually you will get to an age where you will realize that in order for those dreams to become a reality, you have to start working towards it and trust me...it's hard work!
I made choices at a young age to stop dreaming so my reality became the total opposite of what my dreams used to be. I made a choice to become an adult when I should have been a child and I made a choice to have a child when I was still a child. Although I made those choices, it didn't stop me from choosing not to be a non-contributing person in this tough world. Some of my not-so-great choices produced phenomenal results so nothing has to be completely bad forever.
I'm sure we have all gotten a bit frustrated with with people who continuously make bad decisions. However, you just have to realize that you don't have to live their life and it's quite possible that some people don't have dreams and aspirations for the future. Seems like the ones who make an excessive amount of bad decisions are the ones who live life on a day to day basis vs living today for what's to come tomorrow.
CandyNote: Life will provide you with what you need but to get what you want you have to work hard for it!
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