Initial Evaluation Limits Compromise

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When entering into a relationship with someone it is important to evaluate their current position and overall goals in life to ensure that they align with yours.  The future outcome of the relationship is not normally the initial thought when meeting someone, however if things work out for the best several key items will have to be taken into consideration.  When meeting someone it is very likely that you would initially be drawn to their physical and character traits.  However, there are many people who ignore the drive, stability, and past behavior of a person until its too late.  I say too late because many flaws are not recognized until a person is already "head over heels", which then it makes it more difficult to just walk away from the relationship.


It is extremely important to embrace someone with their flaws and all, however it is also important to be sure that the flaws can be reformed or that you have the ability to accept them, whether it be temporarily or permanently.  It's possible that what may be considered a flaw to you is a way of life for the next person.  If this is the case, that means unless a person is willing to compromise parts of their being to make you happy then the relationship has the potential to fail.  If you find that you can't be happy with the person you met then maybe they just aren't the one for you.  If you know what you want and you know a person doesn't meet those requirements then don't waste their time or yours because eventually it will present a problem.  Some things are more serious than others but for the most part people know what they truly desire.


Personally, I believe that when you're younger it's acceptable behavior to be attracted to someone for whatever reason you see fit.  As it's likely that you aren't necessarily looking to spend the rest of your life with this person so it's okay to have a good time.  However, when you reach a certain age you have to pay especially close attention to a persons ability to provide on various levels.  On a personal level, I know that I want a man who can stimulate my mental, be successful in whatever he does, be an amazing father figure, have the ability to communicate with all type of people, and support me in all that I do!  I will not compromise those things.  So I suggest that you evaluate your standards and have a clear idea of what you are or aren't willing to compromise, it will prevent the headache later on.  


CandyNote: "When you compromise your standards you are potentially jeopardizing your level of happiness.  Be fair and wise when making decisions that will affect your livelihood."