Enough is Enough

Good Morning Blogfam!!

Do you ever have a hard time getting rid of certain people, things, or habits?  I'm sure your answer to this is yes as we all have difficulty at time, breaking certain cycles.  As creatures of habit we tend to find our a personal level of comfort in all that we do.  If you're a cigarette smoker, regardless of the fact that it kills you and is unhealthy many people continue to smoke because of an oral fixation that they need to satisfy.  It's normally not until it's too late that people decide to make drastic changes and that is not the most efficient way.  Realize for yourself when your limit has approached and find that strength to rid yourself of whatever is an ailment to you...it will make you feel better.

In the case of bad relationships, enough is normally enough way before it comes to the end.  However, once again as creatures of habit we will find our own comfort in these bad relationships.  I know someone who was (astoundingly pleasant operative word...hehe) in a bad relationship for a long time.  A relationship that was leading nowhere, hadn't been anywhere, and retained no substance.  For some reason due to her comfort level with him, she chose to stay hoping that it would one day be what she wanted it to be.  Through the arguments, fights, disrespect, infidelity, and constant pain and anguish she stuck it out.  Why would someone want to do this when there are so many other gentlemen out here who would be more than happy to treat her with respect?  Because the fear of moving on and starting over holds people back.  Although they blame it on love, its not love, its simply just habit.  However, her biggest problem was that she didn't have just one confidant, she had MANY so each and every time she went through something she would call ALL of her confidants.  That is when it something came to me one day and I shared it with her.  You don't just live for yourself...you live for yourself and others that you lean on for support.  I told her that because she obviously had the desire and patience to deal with the tough situations but that doesn't mean that everyone else has that same level of patience.  Those who are on the outside looking in, and especially those people who genuinely care about you, do not want to see you going through anything that is causing you pain.  I realize that in times of pain and uncertainty we always want to talk to someone about it because if not you feel like you will explode.  Speaking from experience, I am suggesting that if you know you don't have the power to leave a person and that's not the road you're leading down then be very decisive about who you tell what to and how serious the issue is.  Whether you want to accept it or not, people do grow tired and don't have the same desire as you do to put up with drama and nonsense.

Over the past several months I have been faced with realizing when enough is enough and I would have to say that I am doing a pretty good job making those tough decisions.  I have the ability to realize when a situation is causing me more pain than joy, more stress than peacefulness, or more drama than maturity.  When you're trying to be successful you typically don't have enough time for unnecessary issues. 

Quote of the Day: "If you are trying to achieve success, eliminate all stress and guess what will come out of you?  The Best!!!" ~ Candice Loper