I have been back and forth on the topic of love. I do feel that it is a special feeling that can make a huge difference in the lives of others if it is displayed properly and if it is genuine. I believe the biggest issue with love is it is specific to each and every one of us and everyone is constantly looking for the actions based on THEIR definition of it. You know..in my world my determination on whether or not someone loves me may be based on how often they take me to dinner or how often they call my phone. It could also be determined by how many times they tell me they love me. However, in another persons world it may be determined by whether or not they can depend on you in a time of need. Like I said...its very specific to each and every one of us and no particular perspective on it is right or wrong. This is where we fall short...we expect another person to love us the way we want to be loved without explaining to them what our definition of love is. It's like expecting someone to deliver the unknown. If you don't let a person know then just be prepared to let them go because it will get to that point eventually.
Its also important for us to understand that love is feeling. Don't put to much weight on love because if you allow it to be a factor when making certain decisions you will constantly find yourself being uncertain. Think about how a person treats you, whether or not you can depend on them, how they treat themselves and others, what value the relationship has brought to your life, and finally take into consideration how you treat them and if your feelings are genuine. My point is try not to focus so much on the word "love" because its simply just a word that we use to express ourselves in an instant to another person.
In my last blog entry I stated that I feel that love gets blamed for way too much. Well think about it for a second. You have been with someone for 10 years (which normally automatically means to certain people that they love them), it hasn't been the best relationship, and you know for the most part you are pretty darn miserable. However, you continue to stay, you want to work it out, you won't give up hope....why??? Oh because you love them. However, if the love was as strong as it should be why are you trying so hard to keep it together. Love is a feeling...it's not a reason! Love lives in your heart while common sense and logic lives in our minds. Let your mind guide you because your heart can not handle that type of responsibility. Your heart is like the employee who does all the work but your mind is like the supervisor that says "for the most part you're doing a good job but I don't think the decision you made is in your best interest."
When you've had enough people tell you they love you but then turn around and hurt you, it gives you a different perspective. When someone loves you they won't do anything to intentionally hurt you or cause you any pain.
Quote of the Day: "You can't focus on the ones who tell you they love you...you can only trust and believe the ones who SHOW you they love you." Candice Loper
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