Respect Each Relationship Individually

Good Morning Blogfam!

Today I am going to talk about the importance of showing respect to each and every one of your relationships on an individual basis.  The way you communicate or interact with one person may not work for the next person.  I believe that some people tend to put all their relationships in one box and that is normally when conflict happens.  Whether it be a friend, partner, family member, co-worker, or your boss it is very important to know exactly what type of person you are dealing with.

I have a friend who is very close to me whom I have never had an issue with.  Mainly because over the years she and I have learned each other, established our boundaries, and set standards for our friendship.  This is something that I am still learning because I tend to be an open book but that doesn't always work with everyone your interact with.  Some people don't want you to divulge certain information and some want to know anything and everything about your life.  It is also important to be cognizant of who you're speaking to because we are all at different stages in our life and certain topics may not be relevant certain people.  There are also those who could care less whether you are dependable or reliable because maybe they have others that they can depend on...then you have others who get pissed and want to "de-friend" you if you let them down.  My point is it's different strokes for different folks and it is extremely important to treat everyone as an individual and determine if you should stroke fast or slow.

When it comes to romantic relationships it is only fair to treat each and every one of your partners, regardless of particular circumstances, as individuals.  The person who you are with now is not the person you were with before and while it is important to be take each experience with you, don't hold someone accountable for something someone else has done to you.  Until they show you that they are the same person, you must treat them as if they are different...because they are.  This is one of the classic reasons why relationships fail to move forward because you have that person who has been cheated on, used, and abused and when they get with the next person they are constantly over-analyzing their behavior due to their fear of being hurt again.  With that being said, if you know you don't have the proper level of strength then you may have to modify your relationships to accommodate your mental or emotional capacity.  If you are incapable of individualizing your relationships, the confusion that will result from it could ultimately affect your state of mind.

Quote of the Day: "No one has the right to make someone who they want them to be for their sole benefit as that is selfish.  Respect everyone's right to be unique." ~ Candice Loper