Good Morning Blogfam!
I know it's been a while since I have shared my thoughts with you but sometimes I have to take time to collect them. Today I want to talk about selfishness and the people who display that type of behavior. There are times when we will have selfish ways and possibly not even realize it. I bet you're asking how can someone be selfish and not know it? Well it is possible and I will tell you how.
Being selfish means that you are only concerned with yourself and advantage to the exclusion of others. There is a thin line between selfishness and putting oneself first. We are all supposed to keep our best interest in mind, however if your best interest means hurting someone else then you're being inconsiderate and selfish. I have struggled with this myself because it's human nature to want what you want and do what you have to do to get it. When it comes to relationships, I have experienced a considerable amount of inconsideration for my feelings and I too have also inflicted it upon others. Some people want to deal with others on a conditional basis but are not cognizant of the other persons interest level. Therefore, what ultimately ends up happening is you have one person who is extremely interested unconditionally and one person who is only interested in certain facets of the person. It''s understandable that most people are looking for the "total package" but taking different pieces of several people and trying to make it one is not the answer. The potential to hurt too many people is there and that is what makes a person selfish.
To prevent inflicting selfishness unto others it takes a certain amount of self-sacrifice because in order to make someone else happy, sometimes you have to put yourself second. That is if you care about a person enough, however those that don't truly care about the next person wouldn't be willing to do this. It could be a pride or ego thing that keeps people from putting the next person first, but those are the two things that tend to stand in the way of pure happiness. Why? Because when you don't have the ability to put your pride to the side, your main concern is not feeling like a fool.
Quote of the Day: "Don't let others be emotionally punished for your inconsiderate choices." ~ Candice Loper
As I read this blog I couldn't help but think of the term/phrase "Yes Man".This very phrase places oneself in a posistion to be second w/no solid foundation to stride for the trophy of first place in the race/game of life,relationships etc.One has to really examine their situation which constitutes the role of secondary and know themselves as a person that could determine many standpoints such as emotional.Giving yourself ths placement or allowing such could ultimately/tend a person to LOSE SIGHT OF SELF.Dangerous is what this can produce in the sense of not being aware that you placing yourself or even that you have a problem w/this until a light bulb goes off over the top of your that reads "I don't agree w/this decision".At that point is when turmoil can rear it's ugly head due 2 consistent time being passed that you've always agreed to for the sake of someone else happiness instead of yours or even COMPROMISE which allows us both to ride shotgun and be happy w/us and the situation at hand for the relationship/life in general.Sincerly,Ron G's.
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