Is it easier said than done?

Happy February Blogfam!!


I've been finding myself repeating this one particular saying very often lately: "I know it's easier said than done".  I am finding that I only say this people I am conversing with who I don't feel have the ability to do it, so I guess it's my way of making them feel comfortable within their inabilities.  I am not claiming to be perfect or have it all figured out but one thing I do know is, I won't advise or offer my opinion on anything that I haven't experienced first hand.  I have found that doing it is not the hard part, it gets difficult when it's time to cope with it and that's what people can't handle.


I'm sure we've all known people who were really good talkers and would always have some sort of suggestion or advice as to how they think you should handle a situation.  However, I have always been one to appreciate advice from those who have lived it and had the strength to cope with it.  I have been through the ringer and back in life due to personal mistakes, bad judgment calls, weakness, immaturity, stupidity, and the list could go on and on.  However, I learned from those experiences and it has helped shape me into the person I am today.  Now while I realize that everyone will ultimately travel down their own path regardless of advice, opinions, and wisdom from others, I believe it definitely has a significant impact when they know that a person has endured and overcome what they're advising unto them.


I think that people get confused between giving their opinion and advising someone as to what to do.  First of all, when you're speaking to an adult all you can really do is give your opinion or tell someone what you experienced because at the end of the day they will do what they want to do anyway.  However, I find it easier to offer my opinion based on facts not speculation because then I can say "When I went through it....I did" but it doesn't really go over well if you're coming from the angle of "If it were me... I would".  No one really wants to know what you would do if it were you because it's not you and everyone knows when you're in a situation you might think about handling it one way and ultimately end up handling it a totally different way.  So I agree that no one knows what it's like until they've been through it, so if you're talking to or consulting with someone that you respect who has been through what you're going through, take heed to it. 


Quote of the Day: "No one really wants to know what you would do if it were you, they really want to know what you did when it was you!" ~ Candice Loper

Men, Women, Dating & Committment

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It seems to me that people like to make excuses to validate why they make certain decisions.  I had a conversation yesterday about why men feel they have a hard time choosing one woman to settle down with.  There are many men who have a hard time making a decision because they have too many options.  Contrary to popular beliefs there is a such thing as too many options, especially for those who can never be truly satisfied.  So that is when the excuses begin because they need to blame their lack of commitment on something (even if that something is really nothing).


I believe that men tend to leave majority of the pressure and responsibility on a woman to specify what she wants.  Therefore, letting him off the hook from having to set some standards and actually personally enforce them.  If you ever notice, it's normally women who say things like I want a man who... and I want a man that... and I don't want a man that...  Now don't get my wrong, i'm not saying that men don't have standards because i'm sure they do, however the ones who are indecisive won't make their standards known because they have a tendency to change quite often.  The thing about standards is they do have the ability to change because your initial standards may not always produce the best results. 


The only thing that people (not just men) have to realize is that when you're dating someone, it is extremely important to be as honest and forthcoming with your feelings as possible.  There will be situations where you could unintentionally mislead someone into thinking that you want one thing when you know in your heart that you really want another thing.  I encourage everyone to be as honest as you possibly can while dating because that will be your most opportune time to do so.  How you behave while dating is a direct indication of how you will behave in a relationship.  If you make a date with someone and cancel at the last minute, that could be an indication to the person you're dating that you may be unreliable.  If your support if needed and you're not able to come through, that could be an indication that you're selfish or uncaring.  My point is, you have to be aware of your behavior at all times because your first impression is the lasting one.


Quote of the Day: "Your first impression could be your last if you're not clear on who you are or what you want." ~ Candice Loper 

Lies, Truth & Gossip

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I want to thank my sister (Shirl Green) for providing me with my motivation for my entry today.  In relationships we will all experience some level of deception, truth, and gossip as that is the world we live in.  There is always that person that feels like they know something and feels like it's their responsibility to inform the next person.  Your perspective will determine how you view the information received; you will either see it as gossip or you will see it as fact.  I have come to realize that who you're receiving the information from will make a difference as well. You know who has your best interest in mind just as you know who has the potential to be in the business of stirring up trouble.  Therefore, it is important to recognize your resources!


Personally, as long as a person has not given me a reason to believe they are a liar, I will trust them. There is no benefit of the doubt with me because if I have doubts at the end of the day when/if the truth does come out to confirm my doubt there is no benefit there, only pain and frustration. Also, many people have a problem deciphering between what's a truth and what's a lie due to denial.  Deep down they know that what they're being told is a lie but because they are in denial they choose to believe whatever truths they want to.  I have said before that you can't create your own sense of the truth.  I mean you can, but in the end it won't benefit you whatsoever.  Over the years I have realized that you may not find out the truth immediately but everything comes out eventually, if you're patient enough to wait for it.  However, if it is something that is eating at your gut like a parasite, then chances are you already know the truth, you're just waiting for some type of unnecessary confirmation. 


The people that fall victim to gossip are typically the people who don't have a mind of their own or the people who have been dishonest themselves.  It's almost like a sigh of relief to hear that their partner did something because now they feel like they're off the hook.  That right there is a sign of immaturity and unaccountability because you find peace in passing the guilt you're carrying from your misconceptions on to the next person through their potential misconceptions.  


Quote of the Day: "Trusting the person you're with can lighten the load of trusting the person you're not with.  If you can't trust who you're with, then you probably shouldn't be with them." ~ Candice Loper 

Most Is Almost All

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I posted an entry some time ago where I stated that 'initial evaluation prevents compromise" and I still feel very strongly about that.  However, I have adapted a new perspective in regards to standards, compromise, and acceptance.  I believe that sometimes initial evaluation also has the potential to constitute compromise.  If you take your time to evaluate someone upon meeting them; chances are you will discover things about them that you absolutely adore, then you will discover things that you may not be able to cope with.  This is where you decide if the things you can't cope with are worth compromising. 


I believe that people searching for "the one" just have to be real with themselves about what advantages and disadvantages the potential relationship may present.  You will never get all of what you want from someone but it is possible to get most.  In order to get most of what you want, you have to be flexible and willing to compromise certain things so that you can create the proper balance for yourself.  My personal opinion is if you get all of what you want from someone then there is nothing left to desire or strive for with that individual.  No matter how long you have been with a person, the desire to want more always provides a certain level of excitement and anticipation that being content does not.


A major part of getting all that you want is being okay with your wants and desires being part of that all.  I know that sounds confusing so I will break it down for you.  If you consider all the things that you want from a partner and you come to realize that you are only getting part or most of that; then the anticipation for the things you still desire can serve as a portion of that all.  Why? Because if you view your desires as an attribute in your relationship that excites you, then at the very least you have something to look forward to.  As I have stated many times before, it's all about your perspective and how you choose to view your situation.  Anything can be looked upon in a positive light, if you choose to do so. 


Quote of the Day: "Realizing that most is very close to all can provide a world of happiness, while looking at most as not enough can provide a world of misery. Perspective is everything!" ~ Candice Loper

The Right to Know

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Relationships are bittersweet as they have the potential to give off feelings of confusion and uncertainty.  Things will never be completely blissful in relationships because there will always be ups and downs.  However, what I have found to cause the most conflict is when a person is unsure about their place in someones life.  Typically those who question their place in someones life are the ones who are insecure in their abilities on a personal level.  I recognize that there will always be some sort of insecurity that lives in all of us but when you're confident about who you are and what you bring to the table; it mitigates the risk of you questioning your worth to someone else.


When someone truly cares for you they will do whatever they need to do to make you know it, feel it, and embrace it.  However, because we don't live in a perfect world there will always be those people who will never feel it no matter what you do.  Those are the people who typically don't last in relationships and i'll tell you why.  It's nearly impossible for a person to feel insecure on a personal level and possess the ability to feel secure with how the next person feels about them simultaneously.  It's like feeling like you're worth a penny but believing someone when they tell you you're worth a million dollars.  You have to feel it first!


There is a flip side to this as well.  The people who are being questioned also have to be honest with themselves and the next person.  I have witnessed many relationships unfold where one person knew all along that the other person was not the one for them.  However, feelings of conditional obligation force them into a world of selfishness where they become accustomed to leading this person to believe that they truly do desire to be with them.  This type of poisonous union normally leads to resentment and blame, which could all be avoided with an initial dose of truth regarding reality.  You don't owe anyone an explanation regarding the decisions you make, unless your decision could ultimately affect someone else's destiny.  Therefore, it's important to be cognizant of all parties involved.


Quote of the Day: "It stops being all about you as soon as you involve someone else." ~ Candice Loper

Live your Life...Don't just Exist!

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I've realized over the years that most people actually do understand right from wrong; however, you have that select few of people who choose stubbornness and denial over reality.  I am sure we have all done things that we knew wouldn't bring us the best results but the lesson is in not repeating the cycle.  The people who choose stubbornness are the ones who will make mistakes over and over again regardless of the consequences.  While the people who actually embrace their reality will choose to recognize the lessons, do the right thing, and open up the door to well-deserved blessings.


Although i've been that person before who chose to do the wrong thing when I knew exactly what the right thing was, I have never been able to wrap my thoughts around why people do it.  I think it's a slight form of selfishness; whereas people make decisions to be selfish to themselves.  It seems as though people feel like when they do the worldly things they are "living" more than that of the person who chooses to do the right things.  However, the sooner they realize that is not the case they may stop deliberately making life more difficult for themselves and focus on adhering to their reality.  Ultimately, it's up to you to decipher between right and wrong and until you're able to do that effectively, life will always present unnecessary challenges and struggles.  Which is why a goal of mines was to figure out the difference between what I consider right and wrong in my life, and try my best to stay away from what I have determined to be wrong.  Therefore, as you can see it is all relative to you and how fair you are to your reality.


I have had many mental battles regarding the difference between living and existing.  Some believe that there is a difference and I have come to believe this as well.  We all exist in the universe simply because we are here.  However, I believe that when you chose to live you are taking your existence a step further.  When you live you have made a decision to embrace life and all that comes with it and you have made a decision to embrace your reality and actually do something with it.  The people who truly choose to live are the ones who CHOOSE! 


Quote of the Day: "Make a decision to go further than simply just existing.  Live your life the best way you can so you can truly experience LIVING and all that comes with it." ~ Candice Loper

Be Enough for You!

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I've been thinking a lot lately about dependency and happiness.  I am finding that they go hand in hand in certain people's lives.  Some people can't be happy without being dependent on another person or thing, which means they are operating off of conditional, superficial happiness.  I don't think we realize how important it is to establish your own sense of happiness and then let everything else serve as a supplement to what you're currently maintaining.


I have been a single woman for quite some time now and I believe my success in my singleness is due to my ability to embrace it and see the benefits in it.  Being single does not come easy for many people, especially women.  I believe this is because most of their happiness is defined by having a man in their life and what value he may add to her.  However, I have found that the people who look for someone to add value to them, don't feel comfortable or confident with the value that they place upon themselves.  I have found that everything I was able to do in a relationship, I am still able to do as a single person.  It bothers me slightly when people make it seem as if being single cripples or handicaps them in some way.  Being single empowers me because I know that I can do anything on my own and still be genuinely happy with myself through all of the trials and tribulations I have to experience. 


Some people tend to get overwhelmed with the thought of having to handle responsibilities on their own.  However, that is the power of positive perspective because how we view our situation is normally how we will handle it.  I've noticed that the people who depend on others for happiness are typically the same people who don't feel like they can do anything on their own.  Therefore, when the time comes for them to lead a single, partner-free life they feel as if they can't possibly survive.  I pray for people like this because to put so much power in another persons hand is quite damaging and will ultimately serve as their downfall.


Quote of the Day: "Trust yourself enough to be enough for yourself.  It will provide you with a genuine level of personal satisfaction that you may never get a chance to experience otherwise." ~ Candice Loper       

Man vs. Woman or Man = Woman - Take your pick!

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Yesterday I read a post on Facebook that got me thinking.  The post read:


"Ladies if you "act like or look like a man" he will treat you like one! Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Our STRENGTH is found in what many misunderstand to be weakness ~ it's called feminine pulchritude!" ~ Vikki Kennedy Johnson


Firstly, I would like to say that I agree with this statement wholeheartedly.  I do believe that as women a part of our responsibility is to recognize the male purpose in our relationships.  However, this doesn't always come easily depending on the circumstances at hand.  It seems as though the burden is placed on women to know their place and respect their mans right to be just that; a man.  The difficulty comes from not knowing or establishing what the respective roles are in the relationship.  Typically, people tend to think that the man should be responsible for taking out the trash, changing the oil on the car, teaching their sons how to be a man, etc.  In contrast, people tend to think that women are responsible for cooking, cleaning, nurturing the children, etc.  Basically, what i'm getting at is what may be the role of a man in one household may not necessarily be the same in another household.  Therefore, it's important to establish what your expectations are from a gender standpoint so that no one's unclear on what their roles are.


Personally, I do believe that allowing a man the opportunity to be a man in my household may be slightly difficult whenever I get to that point.  I say this because I am a strong woman who has had to be stronger than the average person due to everything I am and have been responsible for.  My strength is not utilized to show men up or make them feel like less of a man, it's just necessary because I have the weight of the world on my shoulders and if I was weak there would be no way I could carry the load.  I have had to perform the roles of woman/man/mother/father on a daily basis for majority of the last nine years, so eventually it just became a part of my being.  It has given me the sole responsibility of making sure that everything is done when it should be.  This reason alone will make it difficult for me because I am very impatient when it comes to waiting on others to do things.  Also, because I have done just about everything by myself for so long, I have no clue as to what duties or tasks should be given to my man and which ones I should keep.  I am sure that it won't be too hard to figure out with adequate communication, but it will be a challenge.


Quote of the Day: "Being submissive isn't a sign of weakness; it's a sign of impeccable strength.  It shows you are optimistic enough to know that what you're giving has the ability to produce a viable return." ~ Candice Loper

Resolutions

Happy New Years Eve Eve Blogfam!


So are you a repeat offender of the infamous New Years Resolutions?  I have been in the past however I am going into this new year carrying on with the same thing I have started and established in 2010.  There is no need for "new year" resolutions when you can make changes at any time of the year.  We all have areas of improvement but I have never saw the benefit in placing all your flaws in a box and saving them for the last day of the year.  The sooner you begin rectifying, the sooner you will see results.


I have to say that this has been one of the best years in a long time, so there is nothing that I would change going into the next year.  I wouldn't be mad one bit if 2011 was the same as 2010, however I am pretty sure that it won't be because instead of resolutions I have GOALS!!!  I feel that people put too much pressure on themselves and leave the possibility for contradiction and further procrastination when they make resolutions.  How about instead of saying "I am going to stop smoking in 2011", more people should just say "A goal of mine is to stop smoking but I know it will take time, thankfully I am so glad that I started in 2010 so maybe sometime in 2011 I can be smoke free."  However, some people don't have the ability to make realistic resolutions, so they just think of all the things they think they should change and try their best to do so but normally forget all about it within the first month of the year.  Also, keep in mind that there are really too many letters in the word in the first place because if you omit some of those unnecessary letters, you will be left with RESULTS and at the end of the day that's all that matters!


Going into this new year I just want everyone to be safe, be sound, and be SECURE with who you are and your position in life.


Quote of the Day: "Love yourself and love your life so there won't be a need for resolutions, only results." ~ Candice Loper

It's a Personal Thing

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I know it's been a while and I just want you guys to know I haven't been intentionally neglecting you.  Life happens all the time and there will always be times that require adequate prioritization.


There are many people who don't realize the effects that their mental stability (or instability) have on others.  The way they treat others is normally based on their convenience, patience level, and ability to be respectful.  I believe people who behave this way are the ones who don't have the ability or desire to look deep within themselves, realize their issues, and try their best to correct them.  Consequently, what ultimately ends up happening is they find themselves constantly causing others pain without even realizing the severity of their actions.  This is basically just another form of selfishness on so many levels; they are being selfish to themselves by not taking the time to get in touch with their issues and they are being selfish to others by causing them to feel the effects of their instability.


When you get to a point where you know exactly who you are and have the ability to embrace it, it becomes second nature to treat others as you would like to be treated.  I don't think anyone will ever be free of issues because our attributes, as well as our flaws, make up a huge part of who we are.  Therefore, if you find yourself being faced with someone who constantly hurts others to make themselves feel better, then you know that they are having a major internal conflict.  I have realized that there is no one who can help a person relieve themselves of their own personal misery because it's something that they have to do on their own.  The best therapy for people like this is to give them space to figure out who they are.  I have found that when you stick around too long thinking you are being supportive; eventually you end up being the person requiring therapy. 


Quote of the Day: "Don't drive yourself crazy just because someone else already ran out of gas on their long trip."~ Candice Loper

Respect Rules!

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I am having a difficult time understanding why people have such a hard time showing support and respect to others.  Respect is a reciprocal action so you have to give it in order to receive it.  It seems like people really underestimate the power of respect so that prevents them from understanding the significance in showing it.  Respect means esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability.  Therefore, even in the case of self the fact still remains that respect is a reciprocal action that has to be given to be received. If you want others to recognize your personal qualities or abilities, you must have to ability recognize theirs because you'll only get back what you put out.


So many things in life call for showing a certain level of respect and regard.  When you're constantly late for appointments, you aren't showing respect for the next persons time.  When you find yourself judging others for being different from you, you aren't showing respect for that persons individuality.  The list goes on an on but if there were more people in the world who showed regard for others, this world would definitely be a better place.  Instead of there always being a battle of personalities and differences of livelihoods, there would be a phenomenon of peace and love.  Some things are easier said then done, but I don't see how giving respect can be a hard thing to do.


My motivation behind this blog entry is because I am so sick and tired of seeing people tear each other down with the hopes of bringing themselves up.  I don't see how putting someone else down can make anyone feel good about anything.  On a personal level, I am pleased about where i'm at in life because I too have been there before where I only found myself solely focusing on the negative aspects of someone else.  However, once I got to the root of my own issues I realized that I wasn't even happy with myself so how could I possibly have the ability to show respect and be happy for the next person.  So as you can see, disrespect and negativity comes from a place of deeply embedded misery. 


Quote of the Day: "We all have areas of improvement just as we all have areas where we excel.  Focusing on the negative aspects of another person will never increase your personal qualities." ~ Candice Loper 

Relationships Can Produce Happiness...If You Want It

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I was having a conversation last night about why people stay in relationships with people that they know aren't the ones for them.  I had to ponder on that for a second before responding because I have been in that position myself too many times.  I came to the conclusion that we stay in relationships with unlikely people for a variety of reasons, that may not hold the most validity.


Firstly, I believe that conditional relationships tend to possess longevity because it's human nature to get used to certain things and not be able to let go of them.  I am sure we have all had moments of being with someone for a specific reason that may be advantageous to us.  However, what ends up happening is you get the opportunity to take advantage of your benefits but in the process you are not completely fulfilled.  Then before you know it, you have wasted potentially valuable time when you knew initially that you didn't see a fulfilling future with that person.


Secondly, I believe that single people of  certain demographic get impatient being alone so they settle for the first person that comes their way that even seems remotely interested in them.  I notice this most often in women who are 35 and up.  That tends to be the age when women perceive being alone as being lonely.  There is a major difference between the two.  When you are alone it just means that you are by yourself and that doesn't always have to be a bad thing.  However, when you perceive yourself as being lonely you feel like your aloneness is a form of emptiness, which is the reason for filling the void with just about anything.  Personally, I use my alone time as a time of reflection and self-actualization.  Being alone is not such a bad thing, especially when you end up being with anyone just for the sake of being with someone and you still end up feeling a major sense of emptiness.


Lastly, I believe that people initially compromise the things they KNOW they want for things they THINK they can settle for.  This is a major mistake that leads to the end of many relationships.  There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want within reason and going after it.  However, if you're willing to compromise your potential for complete happiness just for the sake of being with someone, that is when you end up stuck in a situation that is not pleasing to you.  I've said before that the most important person that you have to be honest with is YOU.  No one else is responsible for telling you what it would take for you to be happy but you are responsible for knowing what you desire that will ultimately equate to happiness.


Quote of the Day: "The first sight of trouble normally happens at first sight.  So don't ignore your intuitions unless you're willing to ignore your happiness." ~ Candice Loper

Be Aware of YOU!

Good Afternoon Blogfam!


The joy of being an individual is that you have the ability to live your life the way you want to.  There are many times when people feel obligated to live their life a certain way due to pressure from others.  However, one thing I have realized is that people normally try to direct others paths when they feel like they aren't wise enough to do it on their own.  I believe that when a person lets their strength and wisdom shine through, others observe that and feel confident that they have the ability to make decisions for themselves.  Therefore, if others are constantly advising you of how to live your life maybe it's time to realize some things about yourself.  Perhaps you really do know who you are but you just aren't the best at making others feel your passion.


It's important to be secure in who you are so you can be confident with the decisions that you make.   I have always come off as a strong woman even at times when I didn't feel like I was strong.  However, others have always felt my strength because I am and always have been SECURE with who I am.  That is not to say that I have always known what I want to do, but I have always known who I am beneath the surface.  For example, I aspire to be a motivational speaker because I know I have the ability to make a difference in the lives of others that may have went through some of the things I have went through.  Therefore, that is the reason why there is no one that has the power to persuade me to change my mind about what I want to do or who I want to be.  For those of you who aren't quite sure who you want to be or what your passions are, I would encourage you to figure it out on your own.  Don't let anyone else decide who you should be because then you ultimately end up being a figment of someone else's imagination.  The only reason one would want to walk in someone elses' shadow is if they are walking down the path you already know you want to walk down.  However, it is extremely important to have the ability to realize the path of the person advising because quite possibly, they may be trying to live out their failed dreams through you.


Quote of the Day: "It's not up to anyone else to determine your destiny.  Maintain control of yourself and your life." ~ Candice Loper

It's Okay to Put Yourself Second

Good Morning Blogfam!


I know it's been a while since I have shared my thoughts with you but sometimes I have to take time to collect them.  Today I want to talk about selfishness and the people who display that type of behavior.  There are times when we will have selfish ways and possibly not even realize it.  I bet you're asking how can someone be selfish and not know it?  Well it is possible and I will tell you how.


Being selfish means that you are only concerned with yourself and advantage to the exclusion of others.  There is a thin line between selfishness and putting oneself first.  We are all supposed to keep our best interest in mind, however if your best interest means hurting someone else then you're being inconsiderate and selfish.  I have struggled with this myself because it's human nature to want what you want and do what you have to do to get it.  When it comes to relationships, I have experienced a considerable amount of inconsideration for my feelings and I too have also inflicted it upon others.  Some people want to deal with others on a conditional basis but are not cognizant of the other persons interest level.  Therefore, what ultimately ends up happening is you have one person who is extremely interested unconditionally and one person who is only interested in certain facets of the person.  It''s understandable that most people are looking for the "total package" but taking different pieces of several people and trying to make it one is not the answer.  The potential to hurt too many people is there and that is what makes a person selfish.


To prevent inflicting selfishness unto others it takes a certain amount of self-sacrifice because in order to make someone else happy, sometimes you have to put yourself second.  That is if you care about a person enough, however those that don't truly care about the next person wouldn't be willing to do this.  It could be a pride or ego thing that keeps people from putting the next person first, but those are the two things that tend to stand in the way of pure happiness.  Why?  Because when you don't have the ability to put your pride to the side, your main concern is not feeling like a fool.


Quote of the Day: "Don't let others be emotionally punished for your inconsiderate choices." ~ Candice Loper 

Peace is POWER!

Good Afternoon Blogfam!


It is such an amazing feeling when you get to a place of peace and maturity.  It makes you feel like you can carry the weight of the world on your shoulders while running a marathon.  We have all had moments of unhappiness but there comes a time when you have to overcome that and move forward.  Misery has the potential to serve as a roadblock on your way to peacefulness.  Typically when people are miserable they don't have to ability to seek and find peace because they are so unhappy with themselves that they don't even know how to find anything about their life that is pleasing to them. 


I have a very hard time talking to and understanding people who have nothing to do in life but complain.  Life is not supposed to be perfect but it is supposed to be peaceful.  I think that some people feel that peace is derived from having everything in life figured out.  However, peace comes from knowing that you're working towards figuring things out.  Peace is all about knowing that you are at or on your way to a better place.  I realized that I had reached a certain level of peace when I was able to forgive myself and others for things I had experienced in the past.  Unfortunately, everyone does not have the ability to do that.  As weird as it sounds, some people embrace misery because they have never experienced happiness.  When being unhappy with life is all someone has ever known there is really no way for them to know or realize that there is another side that is so pure that it will make their head spin!  I have known people like this, and lets just say it was not the most enjoyable experience dealing with them.  I want to enjoy a relationship with someone, I don't want to feel like I am tolerating them so when I feel like that's what i'm doing, I get as far away as possible.


The only thing I will tell people who are currently experiencing unhappiness is try not to transfer your negative energy onto others who are trying to retain peace in their lives.  When people are unhappy it tends to give them ammunition to be nasty to others because they find joy in knowing that someone else is feeling just as worse as they are.  


Quote of the Day: "Peace is pure and powerful. It gives you a sense of serenity that you may have never experienced before." ~ Candice Loper