Men, Women, Dating & Committment

Good Morning Blogfam!


It seems to me that people like to make excuses to validate why they make certain decisions.  I had a conversation yesterday about why men feel they have a hard time choosing one woman to settle down with.  There are many men who have a hard time making a decision because they have too many options.  Contrary to popular beliefs there is a such thing as too many options, especially for those who can never be truly satisfied.  So that is when the excuses begin because they need to blame their lack of commitment on something (even if that something is really nothing).


I believe that men tend to leave majority of the pressure and responsibility on a woman to specify what she wants.  Therefore, letting him off the hook from having to set some standards and actually personally enforce them.  If you ever notice, it's normally women who say things like I want a man who... and I want a man that... and I don't want a man that...  Now don't get my wrong, i'm not saying that men don't have standards because i'm sure they do, however the ones who are indecisive won't make their standards known because they have a tendency to change quite often.  The thing about standards is they do have the ability to change because your initial standards may not always produce the best results. 


The only thing that people (not just men) have to realize is that when you're dating someone, it is extremely important to be as honest and forthcoming with your feelings as possible.  There will be situations where you could unintentionally mislead someone into thinking that you want one thing when you know in your heart that you really want another thing.  I encourage everyone to be as honest as you possibly can while dating because that will be your most opportune time to do so.  How you behave while dating is a direct indication of how you will behave in a relationship.  If you make a date with someone and cancel at the last minute, that could be an indication to the person you're dating that you may be unreliable.  If your support if needed and you're not able to come through, that could be an indication that you're selfish or uncaring.  My point is, you have to be aware of your behavior at all times because your first impression is the lasting one.


Quote of the Day: "Your first impression could be your last if you're not clear on who you are or what you want." ~ Candice Loper