There are no winners in the Blame Game!

Good Morning Blogfam!


In the game of blame there really aren’t any winners. When things don’t turn out the way you thought they would, the best thing to do is ask yourself “What went wrong?” However, people don’t normally ask themselves that question, reflect on the situation, and receive their lesson. Instead, the initial thought is to place the blame on someone else so you don’t have to feel convicted on a personal level. I have found that when people do this, they aren’t allowing themselves the opportunity to see their own area of improvement.


I am sure many of us have had relationships that didn’t work out the way we may have envisioned them to. That’s where some people tend to let their bitterness or animosities towards the other person blind them from seeing the complete reality of the situation. I have been that bitter person before,and thought I could do no wrong and that everything was the other persons fault. However, looking at many situations in hindsight, I was able to realize that blame is a two person game. The entire relationship wasn’t the responsibility of one person, so how can the burden of the separation rest solely on one person? We can easily say things like “He/She cheated on me numerous times, so that’s why the relationship ended.” But if more people decided to look at situations from a different perspective it will provide a sense of clarity and understanding that they wouldn’t normally have. Instead of blaming your partner for lost time due to their cheating ways, you could hold yourself accountable and say, "If I would have ended it when I found out the first time then maybe I wouldn’t have wasted so much time."  As you can see, there isn’t just one perspective to any given situation, and the road you take will ultimately determine your outlook and ability to accept things for what they are.


When you choose to focus on being accountable for your actions, it gives you the ability to move forward, forgive, and relinquish the next person from any responsibility for your pain. I have learned that when you spend so much time blaming someone and being bitter, it takes away a certain level of peace that you have within yourself. If you don’t move forward with peace, then you will be sure to take frustration, upset, and worry into your next relationship.


Quote of the Day: “You are in complete control of your circumstances and what you allow someone to do to you or take you through, so don't blame someone else after YOU'VE dealt with it for too long.” ~ Candice Loper