Good Morning Blogfam!
So I have been told that I am not like most females, I am inclined to agree and that's not at all a bad thing in my opinion. I am a woman, a mother, a friend, a daughter, a sister, and a confidant but one thing i'm not is a "baby mama". I put the term "baby mama" in quotes because they are definitely in a class of their own. If you notice baby mamas are always referred to with a negative connotation. Why is this?? Well the episode of The Game last night and things I have witnessed firsthand explain just why this is the case.
In most cases the two parents have had some sort of relationship in the past, hence creating a beautiful life/lives together. It seems to me that the baby mamas have a hard time moving on from the fact that they're not with their childs father anymore, and feel slighted somehow because they beared his child but didn't end up with him. This is the chance that you take when you have children out of wedlock, not that being married completely eliminates that possibility of being a single parent someday. Many baby mamas wouldn't want to admit it but too often they use the children as pawns, but too often so does the father. I am sure many of us know men who have claimed to have to do certain things out of the norm, so they can "see their child" or avoid having to be taken to court to pay child support. That is just a scapegoat to continue on with whatever their motive is for carrying on a relationship, regardless of the specifics, with their baby mama.
Women are more emotional creatures and have a harder time moving on, so men need to stop leading them on when they know their intentions are not aligned with hers. I feel sympathy for the women who have a hard time realizing that their children are just an excuse for the immature father to stake his claim in her life. Just as I feel sympathy for the men who are weak enough to fall for the antics of the women who just can't move on. I don't feel sorry for the immature man who uses his baby mamas weakness to his advantage to control the situation, vice versa. Everyone deserves their right to move on and be happy, especially if you aren't willing to give them your all; baby mama, baby daddy, or not.
Quote of the Day: "When you're genuinely concerned for your childrens well being, you will make sure their mother/father is happy so that it may be reflected unto the child." ~ Candice Loper
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