Balance is Key

Good Morning Blogfam!


I believe that in order to be truly happy you have to have a proper balance in certain areas of your life.  I've noticed that the people who spend too much time doing a particular activity or devote too much time to certain people, are normally the ones who seem unhappy beneath the surface.  Sometimes while a person is spending too much time doing one thing, they aren't doing another thing that may be of interest to them; this is where balance comes into the equation.


I am sure many of us have been in relationships where we just wanted to spend every waking (and sleeping) moment with our partner.  Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with this but I have known many people (including myself) who eventually got to a point of making my man my priority and completely forgetting about the things that once made me happy outside of him.  So it took me a while to realize that when you get a person accustomed to a certain type of behavior, that is what they will expect from you going forward.  So if you spend every waking (and sleeping) moment with a person, when the time comes for you to separate from them they won't really be able to understand it.  Consequently, depending on the person you are with your relationship may even experience trust issues.  Eventually, you realize that you have let all your friends go, your dreams are slipping, and before you know it your self-identity has left right along with everything else.


This is why it is especially important to maintain a proper balance between togetherness and separateness.  While in a relationship, it's healthy to have common goals, dreams, and visions.  However, it's equally important to evolve individually because personal growth is an essential part of life.  If for so long your primary goal has always been growing together, would you know what to do if you ever grew apart?


Quote of the Day: "The scales of life start out empty so it's up to you to place the weights in the proper dishes to create the proper balance." ~ Candice Loper